Meditation Articles Series
WHY PEOPLE GIVE UP ON MEDITATION
Talking to others who gave meditation a go and then gave up on it, I learnt that it wasnít that they couldnít, it was simply that they had expectations of what meditation should and shouldnít be. When their expectations werenít met, they became disappointed.
How often are you disappointed when you have an expectation of someone or something? You enter a relationship, for example, and you expect your partner to love and respect you. When they donít youíre miserable. You have expectations of your children, how they should behave, what they should be doing with their lives. When they donít do the things you want them to do you get angry, resentful, and controlling. Have you noticed that with expectations come a lot of shoulds and shouldníts?
In meditation what shows up is exactly what is meant to show up. If the mind is agitated some days, then that is whatís happening. If the body is restless and uncomfortable that too is what is happening. If there are moments of peace, and joy that is also what is happening in that moment. Just stepping aside and watching what is going on, like youíre watching a movie, and a part of you knows itís just a movie. Doing this is helping me more and more not to be so invested in my stuff. I may still get upset about things and what others do or donít do for me, (my expectations), but Iím learning to watch as the emotion, or thought behind the feeling passes through. As the Buddha said, ďAll is anicca, anicca, anicca.Ē In other words everything is rising and falling and passing away.